Lifestyle – Page 10 – LEARN AS YOU LIVE

What makes you, you.

TRIALS & TRIBULATIONS

Heartbreak
Betrayal
Love
Admiration
Joy
Family

Those are just a few examples of experiences you experience that help define who you become. It depends on how you took in what happened of course, two people can go through the same situation yet reflect differently from it. For many reasons such as how we are raised, what we’ve observed in an independent settings, and the influence of things around us while growing out also.

It’s alright to be negative I suppose, if that’s what helps you get through you’re days in a relatively “peaceful” way. That’s your form of Realism you live in state of harsh truth. It doesn’t mean that you aren’t okay yourself you’re just aware of how ugly things can get so you try not to venture far from that kind of reality. Some people just happen to have horrible souls instilled within them, this doesn’t apply to them. Just avoid accidentally turning into what caused you pain/grief out of spite .
“The bright side is…” it’s always a brighter side to things because everything is a butterfly effect so without one thing happening another opportunity wouldn’t have came about even if that’s just the truth. Nothing is as disappointing as it seems because when it’s great sometimes it’s not that good and when it’s bad sometimes it’s not that horrible just… inconvenient at the time. You become understanding of that as time progresses and become more accepting since you’ve overcame particular circumstances.
Tranquillity, some people just live in the moment then determine their demeanor. You take what’s around you and incorporate it into your life the best way that fits to bring you solidarity because of that your not happy nor sad, you’re just living. What comes with that is a lack of feelings, to others that is, because you know. You know that without the display of feelings it’s easier to live without worry.

You can’t judge how anyone decides to heal throughout life. You can only work with them and make sure they keep their head strong instead of tearing them down because you don’t like what you see or hear. Everyone has a back story and depending on circumstances it’ll determine their outlook on life. Some do things unconsciously because that’s just what they’re use to. Everything is a Learning experience, dealing with different people teaches you how to deal with many people as you move on with life.

Forgetness

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

It’s easy to comprehend the purpose of the phrase “forgive and forget” but how easy is it to do? Is Forgiveness more essential when living peacefully oppose to forgetting? Which is more important Forgiveness or Forgetting? Is a grudge caused by not forgetting or lack of forgiveness?

You can love a person but hate what they did

I figured forgiveness is important because the only heart that’s filled with sorrow is your own. It is its own independent structure that only has to do with you, your mind, and your soul. Forgiving is more psychological than forgetting regarding an emotional aspect. Never let a person persuade your forgiving into condoning the actions of the offender.

Nine times out of ten when you think about it your “forgiveness” Isn’t as important as “forgetting” to the other party. Not many people see their faults within problems they just look pass any deformed self characteristics, especially if they aren’t usually addressed, because they seen no problem to begin with. As long as you have forgotten what was done it’s a more secure feeling of relief.

I believe forgetfulness can cause problems because it’ll make the toxins within your life feel as if they can repeat fraud actions. To forget means “to fail to remember” with that mind frame it’s easier to justify why the same mistake could possibly be done again.

Theoretically speaking forgiveness & forgetting don’t go together. In the perfect world it would be sensible because insulting ones intelligence wouldn’t be done so frivolously. So the saying “Fool me once shame on you. ” would stop after the first fool because you wouldn’t put to much pass the other person out of the generosity of your heart due to the fact you wouldn’t want to be fooled again.

Overall forgiving is for the soul & forgetting is for reassurance. It’s okay not to forgive if you aren’t comfortable doing so and it’s okay to always remember what caused you some form of grief so you won’t have to relive it.

Here’s a song to go with the Content you just read. 4:44 – Jay Z

“Niggas ain’t shit”

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

Believe me when I tell you, in most cases you are what you attract. Unless you’re one of those “we had nothing in common and that’s what I liked” type of people. Now when you share common interest & lifestyles I’m sure it’s nice but people don’t take into consideration that in most cases when you’re in a relationship you get out what you put in. Meaning many women might not notice they aren’t putting in the “all” they except a man to put in because to them it’ll be made up by their other half without realizing that this eggs on a 80/20 relationship.

The biggest problem is generalization, now don’t say “well those are facts” because realistically speaking many generalizations made about women are more than 50% true, yet it’s not necessarily respected since women feel like they are picked on more unfairly than the opposite sex. At the rate we’re going it’ll definitely be equal, bullying you can say, between both parties sooner than later. I’ve learned many new ways to deal with a certain kind of person after every experience with the opposite sex. Many people disregard the logical aspects, and instead of generalizing the fail of a premature relationship I reflect instead of blaming men.

Learn to appreciate the infamous “ain’t shit” nigga, they are indeed extremely truthful. I’ve noticed that careless men aren’t appreciated like they should be for instance, they tell you what it is while letting you know what it is not. Unfortunately it is often warped into a forced Love because instead of being accepting of, women try to change characteristics of the person to make them adapt to their needs or what they consider “relationship material”. When you think of it that way you notice that everything was fine before you tried to fix something that wasn’t necessarily broken. If a man tells me they do not want to move on into a wholesome relationship then so be it, I accept it then I move on. What exactly do you get out of forced change except resentment from the other party?

As you progress with your love life you start to admire the little things like truth. You learn everything is by choice not force and that makes it easier to be accepting. Character traits are important to pay attention to it’ll help distinguish what kind of person you’re with. Remember you can’t make anyone do anything they don’t want to do that’ll only turn you into an inconvenience. Some people must be taught but the difference between teaching and making is the other person must be willing to learn.

So think before you say “Niggas ain’t shit” and reflect on if signs were given and you fell victim to denial. Or maybe the universe didn’t align you two for a reason but you wanted to be selfish and accidentally brought misery upon yourself.

Do We Deprive Ourselves Love By Not Disregarding What We Love

What is compromising? Is it an essential in a relationship? Can your relationship succeed without compromising with your partner? Do you agree with the “You must Take it or Leave it?”

How can you balance loving more than one thing ? I’m not referring to the love of a parent verses who you’re in a relationship with. I’m saying can you love “partying” for instance as much as you love your partner? It’s been many breakups due to the fact “they loved ___ more than they loved me” and I think if you feel such a way don’t make the person balance their lifestyle just accept it or move on. I’m sure it wouldn’t be any hard feelings after a while understand the loved one may not feel that the balance is important but I also feel as before you entered the relationship you knew and still decided to become “one” with the them. Meaning you were accepting.

As if … you would compromise.

Now don’t think the person who doesn’t want to necessarily “compromise” isn’t going through a battle themselves. They have to debate whether or not they want to balance their love life with the stuff they love or do they want to finish loving what they desire guilt-free. “Do they love what they love enough to not care about receiving love from another person. Ultimately the answer is what many people are scared to do, which is end it. As time progressed it was written somewhere in the rules of life that we must eventually settle down. We must “settle” Without any logical explanation besides to finish help populating the world and keeping humanity alive.

I believe in being selfish, nonetheless especially in predicaments like these, because who has your back more than you? It’s important not to lose touch with what you love because then you’ll be miserably in love and that’s not what love is about. If it’s “destined” to be then all will work out, an unconditional balance will be created, and all aspects are to be respected. That’s the true kind of balance and the real meaning of compromising.

To close out I advise you to go listen to “PRIDE” by Kendrick Lamar off his Latest Project “DAMN.”

The receiver of bad news

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

Would you say being aloof contributes to realism?

I learned not to stress over the truth, but appreciate the fact it was told to me. After a while stuff just doesn’t pain you anymore.

Being relatively okay with the bad in life does something to you, you miss out on so many emotional experiences. Those experiences help you with dealing with life instead of suppressing life. I don’t know what being at a solemn state all the time did to me but I can’t say I don’t appreciate it. As I think I would say it made “couping” easier but being honest I think it just contributes to a humble denial because you’re fully aware of you not being “okay”. What is “okay”?

At the same time you’ve built yourself to be “alright” so how you don’t really know what okay is supposed to be.

“Bad news” there’s no such thing if you’re open minded. You accept everything thrown your way, most of the time “bad news” is already solidified there is nothing you can do about, so why dwell on it? That’s a life tip to keep you from having a stress overload, but it does make a difference if you’re a realist or optimistic.

Don’t get me wrong it’s always a brighter side to things and of course some causalities could be avoided if people weren’t selfish but you have to take what you’re given. With that point I emphasize why it’s important to just roll with the punches and not let it break you down but to encourage you to choose your next decision wisely. I’m not saying you MUST be nonchalant or that this is the correct way to deal with unfortunate events, This is just me helping you keep some form of peace.

To close out I advise you to go listen to “BLOOD” by Kendrick Lamar off his Latest Project “DAMN.”

One person

02:17

All it takes is one person, one person to make you feel like you’re the most important person on the face of the earth. One person to give you faith without looking for anything in return, one person.

How can a person see what you don’t see in yourself? How can a person give you such an intangible wealth called love.

Appreciate, appreciation, appreciative of everything given such as kindness and reassurance and loyalty for making me feel as such royalty! What could I ever be able to give… to show my appreciation that I’m appreciative that you appreciate everything I have to give even when I’m feeling as if it’s not much yet you still trust in me.

One person.

Thankful for that one person.

You don’t love me like you use to

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

Accept the fact people are only going to generally like the idea of you let alone y’all together, once you’re realistic with that it’ll contribute to making life a little easier to live.

The “bright” side to that is just know you’re indented in their mind forever. The potential love interest just goes around looking for you in someone else & when they think they found it best believe it’s not authentic so the outcome is disastrous. Even though it might hurt you to watch from a distance because your actually at peace enough to wish the other person the best of luck you can’t intervene. Yes it might hurt you to watch someone you once adore burn in flames but it is what it is.

It took me years to understand “you love the idea of me”, the “idea” why would you like the idea of me and not the actual me being with you, you can have me but you rather dream of what we could’ve been, stupidity such as that I’ve accepted as “dodging a bullet” because in their head it’s okay and they don’t see how it doesn’t make any sense because they’re to busy being superficial.

I respect it everybody lives differently, I’ll go ahead and give someone the benefit of doubt and say they’re looking out for me by not being greedy with my presence and leaving me emotionally distraught. Think of it as “Ideas turn into dreams until you move forward into making them reality” & without the actual you in the persons life that’ll never happen so they have no choice but to settle for a lesser value of a person.

It’s never bad on your behalf because by the time you realize all of this your patiently waiting or them to get it together, I suppose most carry on with their life, because you see the potential together as a unit. The love was unconditional and sincere so it’ll always be something there whether it’s through a simple friendship or admiration from a distance.

Live easy, the end.

Love is all about willingness

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Now before I get started understand I’m willing to receive a lot of hate in order to defend what I’m fond of , respect me for it ! At least I’ll burn with integrity.

Are you willing to sacrifice your own sanity to conform so who you’re in love with is satisfied ? Is it selfish to not want to?

Willingness is slightly different from being selfless, Willingness is a noun regarding the QUALITY or state of being prepared to do something; readiness. While selflessness was addressed in a previous post, Selflessness is an adjective meaning one can be more CONCERNED with the needs and wishes of others than with one’s own: unselfish. Personally I would consider Willingness just the ability to know you’re in control of what you decide to tolerate and whether you even want to tolerate it.

When you’re in love it’s a necessity you compromise, right, and along with compromising comes tolerance and the fine line between the two gives you willingness, tolerance revolves around being annoyed but the good outways the bad so the time spent being uncomfortable is….what you can say “alright”, you can complain but choose not to.

I believe that people adapted to taking your willingness for granted but it’s your will, so realistically you’re not selfish you’re just doing what you desire to do.

Understand that a person can be willing but they can just as tired and eventually the willingness will not exist so don’t try to manipulate it, to balance it out and do not take take take I encourage you be considerate. To be willing is not to mind the hurt, be okay with the truth regardless of how displeasing it can be, and always keep the well being of yourself in mind.

Learn to mind your business, you are your own person who consider different things to be “acceptable” oppose to the next person. I’m reminding you of this because people give themselves the right to determine how the next person should react to life and your concern might just be appreciated but understand that’s all it will ever be sometimes. The advice, opinion, or whatever it is does not effect the lifestyle of a person who see nothing wrong with how they are living. Mind your business!